Attachment Coach Helping Women of Color
My name is Crystal Williamson and I am an attachment coach helping women of color end their unhealed attachment style across six dimensions: core wounds, emotional patterns, needs, boundaries with others, communication with others, and behavior coping mechanisms.
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I do this work for three main reasons: 1. I have personal experience. 2. I am passionate about emotional well-being and healthy relationships among people of color. 3. I have a strong desire to make a difference!
My entire life I had felt as if something was different with me but I just couldn’t identify it. In my early 50’s I was diagnosed with ADHD and the heavens opened up for me. I finally understood why I was the way I was… forgetful, disorganized, indecisive, in debt, impulsive, and distracted! But wait, on top of this, I was clingy, insecure, and always afraid of being abandoned. I looked to others to fulfill my needs and was often sad when they fell short of my expectations.
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I took a training at work on attachment styles for educators and again, the heavens opened for me. How the instructor described the anxious preoccupied attachment style made me feel as if they were talking directly to me. That day I began learning everything I could.
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Growing up a fatherless daughter, I always dreamed of being a daddy's girl and when my father couldn’t fulfill that role, I internalized it and began life-long limiting beliefs of I am not enough and I am abandoned.
In my relationship to self and others, I rarely meet my own needs and always placed the needs of others before my own. In fact, I always thought meeting my own news meant I was selfish.
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As I approached the end of my long-standing career in public education, I started to lean in another direction. I had a strong pull to help myself and other women of color identify and heal their attachment style.
Healing so that we can end broken marriages, end loveless marriages, end self-loathing and other unhealthy strategies we use to feel safe.
When the student is ready, the teacher appears.
-Tao Te Ching
Empowered Her Work
As I went into the rabbit hole of attachment style, I knew I had to do more.
I empowered myself with education and completed the Integrated Attachment Coaching Certification under Thais Gibson. Thais is a personal development expert, author and creator of the Personal Development School.
In practicing what I learned from my training and personal introspections, I learned that my strategies to feel safe worked well in the past but no longer served me. I learned the reason why every effort to stop undesired behaviors was soon met with a return to my old ways. The conscious mind can not outperform your subconscious mind. I had to reprogram my subconscious mind in order to see long lasting results! I reprogrammed my limiting beliefs; learned healthier ways to communicate, cope, set boundaries; meet my own needs; and I am much happier now!
Relationships to self and others don’t have to be this difficult or limiting!
Even though the strategies you used as a child aren’t effective as an adult, you can reprogram your subconscious beliefs and live the life you deserve and your children! You can make positive change that affects generations to come!
Healing your attachment style is available to all of us. THANK YOU subconscious mind!
I went from feeling stuck to my self sabotaging ways to finally feeling empowered and in control of my thoughts, feelings and behaviors.
These are the exact insights and tools I’m so passionate about teaching in my e-courses, 1:1 coaching program and online platforms.